It has been a while that I wanted to write an article on how to be sexy. I had one point I wanted to cover, the “one thing” women should know if they want to know how to be sexy; however, I did not want to limit your reading to one lonely point, so I started doing some research. I read some other blogs, looked at some of hundreds of points, but none truly resonate with me. I was almost ready to give up and focus on one detail only when, looking up, I saw Faby, and with a smile on my face I realised the second important step to know how to be sexy.
I believe that less is more, so without further ado, I will give you my two steps to know how to be sexy.
Do you want to know how to be sexy? Move slowly
Imagine you want to put on your stockings, and suddenly you realise “he” is looking at you from outside the door. He thinks you haven’t seen him, but you know he is there. You pick up one of the stockings, slowly starting to move your hands from the tip of your foot up your leg. You move deliberately, tasting every moment of what you are doing. You know he is looking, and he is enjoying almost as much as you. Your hands are steady, they don’t fidget with the suspender belt, but every movement is measured, calculated. Before starting to repeat the movement on the other let, you make sure that the dress leaves something visible, but not enough.
If you want to know how to be sexy, the first thing you should focus on is your speed. Doing things slowly, calmly, while being in control of yourself is sexy. There is no need to rush, no need to do things as they were everyday chores, as those who know how to be sexy know that there is bigger pleasure than savouring a moment.
I am sure you don’t gulp down a tasty meal in few quick bites, but you take your time, as it is not just about eating. In the same way, if you move slowly you set the tempo at which the mind can wander.
The second rule to know how to be sexy: be yourself!
Deep down, every woman know how to be sexy, and it is not about emulating someone else, that usually ends really badly. How to be sexy is as easy as being yourself. I have always thought that it is much better to be someone’s glass of wine than everybody’s cup of tea, and in being yourself you resonate with “that special one” for whom being sexy is worth everything.
If you want to know how to be sexy you should let go of expectations, you should stop thinking what other think of you, focussing exclusively in being the person you know best: yourself. Of course, if you want to make the most out of the sexy self, whatever you do, do it slowly!
But why is being yourself equals to be sexy? To me it is the fact that you have the strength of character of accepting who you are, being proud of the woman you have become. Nobody is perfect, and those who desperately seek perfection without accepting the present do not speak volumes to me. On the contrary those who embrace every single detail about themselves, that are comfortable in who they are, are women who exude confidence. And confidence is sexy.
Tell us your “How To Be Sexy”
Of course I have decided to keep things minimal. To me a woman who has the strength of character to trust herself, and moves slowly how if someone was watching, are the two things that make the biggest parts of being sexy.
I would love to hear what you have to say though. Write a comment below and let me know what else is as important, if not more, to know how to be sexy!